How Coaching for Neurodivergent BIPOC Supports Your Self-Care, Relationships, and Daily Life
If you’ve ever felt like the intersections of your neurodivergence and cultural identities make everyday life harder, like struggling to:
Prioritize your needs
Communicate effectively
Feel safe in your relationships
You’re not alone.
But it can also be disappointing to turn to traditional therapy and coaching that leave your intersectional identities at the door…
And worse, ignore the larger systems of oppression we’re currently forced to exist in.
That’s where coaching for neurodivergent BIPOC folks comes in - specifically, abolitionist coaching.
In this post, we’ll explore:
How traditional therapy and life coaching fails neurodivergent BIPOC
Why neurodivergent folks need abolition
Why abolition matters even more for neurodivergent BIPOC
Why coaching for neurodivergent BIPOC needs to be abolitionist
How it can support your self-care, relationships, and daily life
What if your daily life prioritized collective liberation and justice?
How Traditional Therapy and Life Coaching Fails Neurodivergent BIPOC
Traditional therapy and life coaching often fail neurodivergent BIPOC because they’re built on white, neurotypical, capitalist, and ableist norms.
You’re told to “fix” your behavior instead of honoring your rhythms, culture, and sensory needs.
Traditional coaches might push your “productivity” over much-needed rest.
Mainstream therapists might ignore the systemic racism, colonial trauma, and ableism that shape your life.
Instead of dismantling oppressive systems, these approaches can blame you for not fitting into them.
This leaves you feeling unseen, exhausted, and disconnected from your own wisdom…
When what you might actually need is an abolitionist approach that celebrates your wholeness and centers your liberation.
Why Do Neurodivergent People Need Abolition?
Abolition isn’t just about abolishing prisons or policing.
Abolition invites us to dismantle every system that devalues our brains, bodies, and identities.
Why does this matter to neurodivergent folks?
Simply put, we live in systems designed to erase, pathologize, and exploit us.
As you might have experienced yourself…
From schools that punish difference to workplaces that value constant productivity over well-being, the status quo is exhausting and violent for us.
Worse still, traditional support structures often teach us to conform, mask, and blame ourselves!
Abolition for neurodivergent people means:
Dismantling “treatments” like ABA, harmful schools, and ableist institutions and workplaces that enact violence against neurodivergent folks
Rejecting carceral systems and punishment like institutionalizing neurodivergent folks or calling the cops on them
Ditch exploitative “efficiency” rules for on practices that honor your energy, rhythms, and wellbeing
Rejecting ableist norms that pathologize your sensory differences, executive dysfunction, or divergent social style
Surround yourself with communities - and building new worlds that let us flourish on our own terms
Why Abolition Matters Even More for Neurodivergent BIPOC
Neurodivergence already challenges society’s rigid expectations.
But add being BIPOC?
Whether you’re neurodivergent, ADHD, AuDHD, Autistic, dyslexic, physical disabled, queer, trans, LBTQIA+, a person of color, living in diaspora…
The systems stacked against you multiply.
The ableism against we face for being neurodivergent intersects with systemic racism, colonialism, and capitalist exploitation.
We face layer upon layer of barriers to education, healthcare, work, and community spaces.
You might face:
Higher scrutiny or disciplinary action in school or work because of both race and neurodivergence
Stereotypes that erase your voice or pathologize your neurodivergent behavior
Limited access to resources designed for mostly white, neurotypical populations
TLDR - we need abolition for neurodivergent BIPOC more than ever, and it starts with (where possible, depending on individual circumstances):
Rejecting systems that erase your identity. Say no to workplaces or communities that force you to hide your culture, queerness, or neurodivergence.
Centering collective liberation. Your wellbeing is tied to your community! Abolition means creating spaces where neurodivergent BIPOC folks can thrive together.
Releasing toxic capitalist expectations and develop leadership, creativity, and community care that honor your values and lived experience.
Honoring your intersectional needs. Build practices that respect your body, brain, and cultural heritage, instead of bending to oppressive norms.
Coaching for neurodivergent BIPOC that leaves systemic oppression at the door can deplete you and spiral you down into deeper self-blame.
It doesn’t have to be this way!
What Coaching for Neurodivergent BIPOC Needs to be Abolitionist
Abolitionist coaching doesn’t ask you to keep pushing through, hustling, or “self-help” your way through oppressive systems that were never designed for our survival.
Unlike traditional life coaching - which often centers productivity, self-discipline, and assimilation WITHOUT acknowledging the larger systems we exist in…
Abolitionist coaching for BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, & neurodivergent folks is radically different:
It stays mindful of the real systemic barriers that neurodivergent BIPOC face when meeting their basic needs.
It encourages you to abolish oppressive beliefs and messages about capitalism, ableism, racism, etc. within yourself first, thus preventing us from re-enacting oppressive dynamics in our personal relationships.
It finds ways to practice abolitionism in your immediate community. This means leading efforts to dismantle the structures that devalue your community’s labor, culture, and neurodivergent needs.
It ditches the toxic myth of “going it alone” and hyper-independence.
It builds radical resilience through neurodivergent-friendly COMMUNITY care, emotional regulation, and collective support.
Because our liberation is interconnected!
And traditional coaching can be very individual-centric and focused only on personal development.
Instead, abolitionist coaching encourages you to grow in ways to support and LIBERATE the communities you care about, not just for the sake of individual success.
Rather than patching yourself to survive broken systems, abolitionist coaching helps you build a life and leadership practice rooted in justice, collective liberation, and joy.
How Abolitionist Coaching Can Support Your Self-Care, Relationships, and Daily Life
In my coaching for neurodivergent BIPOC, we CO-create ways for you to:
Stop grinding through exhaustion
Listen to your body’s signals
Notice your nervous system is overstimulated
Unlearn the laziness myth
Set boundaries
Communicate your needs
Navigate microaggressions in relationships
Connect with others authentically without overextending yourself
Create sensory, neurodivergent-friendly routines
Prioritize what truly matters
Build systems that reduce overwhelm
Honor your rhythms
Grow a support network
You’ll reclaim your time, energy, and joy, find ways to resist oppressive systems, and develop more capacity to contribute to the collective liberation of BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, and neurodivergent folks.
What If Your Daily Life Prioritized Collective Liberation and Justice?
Traditional self-help and productivity advice assumes you must push harder, mask differences, or ignore your needs.
As an Asian AuDHD coach (I’m Autistic AND ADHD) who offers support to disabled, neurodivergent folks of color around the world, my coaching approach is different.
It’s rooted in abolitionist, anti-capitalist, and anti-ableist principles helps you:
Center your body, the Land, the ancestors, and the collective
Build routines around well-being instead of hustle
Nurture relationships without sacrificing your mental or physical health
If this resonates, book a free consultation call today to learn more about the 1:1 Rewilding Retreat, my one-to-one online coaching for neurodivergent, queer, QTIBIPOC.
This is a tender space where we’ll co-create a plan to meet your basic needs, strengthen self and community care, and build healthier, more joyful relationships - on your terms, without compromising your identity or energy.
FAQ: Coaching for Neurodivergent BIPOC
Q: Who is coaching for neurodivergent BIPOC right for?
A: It’s for anyone who is BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, and neurodivergent and wants support meeting basic needs, improving self-care, and strengthening personal relationships - whether you’re self-identified or diagnosed ADHD, AuDHD, Autistic, or another neurotype.
Q: Do I need a formal neurodivergent diagnosis to participate?
A: Absolutely not. Coaching focuses on your lived experience, not paperwork. I work with clients self-identified or late-diagnosed.
Q: Is this coaching only for professional growth?
A: No! While leadership coaching is an option, I also offer coaching that supports your daily living, self-care, communication, and personal relationships. My life coaching is not just about empowerment. It about liberating each other as queer, neurodivergent, & BIPOC folks.
Q: How does an abolitionist, anti-capitalist, and anti-ableist approach help me?
A: It shifts the focus from pushing harder or masking your identity to dismantling those barriers and centering your body and the collective. You learn routines and strategies that honor your energy, meet your needs, and foster liberation for yourself and your communities.
Q: Are sessions virtual or in-person?
A: Coaching is fully online to meet you where you are, reduce barriers, and make support accessible regardless of location.
Book your free consultation to learn more today so you can live with more ease, authenticity, and clarity.
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